1. Count the Days or Count the Ways

    July 10, 2013 by admin


    “Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have”.  –Dale Carnegie


    When you are in treatment you can either count the days or count the ways.  What I mean by that is  you can remain a prisoner and count the days until you get out, or you can count the ways you  can make treatment work for you. 

    Here’s my experience: The hardest thing for me was to get rid of the notion that I was in control – of anything.  My default way of thinking is “I can do this myself”.    WRONG.  The more I leave the thinking up to the professional, the recovery successes (including sponsor, of course), and the plan and process laid out for me, the less of a struggle it is.  It is never easy but very rewarding results are to be had.  Try this—think of giving up your control a relief.  Allow your way of thinking to take a vacation; not forever, but as the saying goes, our best thinking got us here.  You can be absolutely sure, that you will be back on the job (or seeking employment), back in school, back to finding your purpose, in the right amount of time for you. 

    At Miracle Terrace Sober Living residence, for example, if you don’t think for yourself and get out of bed in the morning—someone will pull you out of bed and face you in the right direction.  I NEEDED THIS!  Otherwise, upon opening my eyes in the morning, I would have pulled  the covers over my head and stayed in bed as long as possible, feeling fairly sure that no one would notice my absence.  It doesn’t take a genius to see that if you don’t get out of bed, you won’t get anything done that day.  So, for me;  1. Getting out of bed,  2. Making my bed—putting one foot in front of the other and taking baby steps was my introduction to taking direction.  Each day you can handle a little more. Then acknowledge the things that have been accomplished– not the things that haven’t been done. Positive thinking feels so much better than negative, but again, baby steps to that goal.

    Bounce ideas off others and listen to and hear suggestions. This is what’s known as living one day at a time—one hour—even one moment at a time.

    Change can’t happen overnight, so “don’t leave until the miracle happens”!


    ‘til next time…



    P.S.:  Today’s thought from Hazelden is:  What I said never changed anybody; but what they understood did.



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